Marriage

For various reasons we had the opportunity to explain to our J why our marriage works. I can not speak for all marriages out there, but this is why ours does.

We are Best Friends First

We don’t go to Disney together or the beach or travel because we are married. We did that before we were married. We do fun things together because we are besties. We love going places and spending time together because we are best friends. If something bad happens he is my go to, and marriage didn’t change that. We were friends LONG before we were married, and that has totally shaped the way we respond to each other.

We Do Not Go To Bed Angry

I hear this from a lot of couples, but it is so very true. Going to bed angry allows you to stew and it can breed resentment and a cycle of anger. We put our issues to rest before we put ourselves to rest and it is amazing how this allows me to sleep well.

Our Love Was Born From Years not Days

We have spent years together… I have known my husband since I was 12. I was the annoying girl down the street. I was NOT the love interest until much later. We dated off and on through high school. After college having still been friends and other life turns happening we gave it one more go. It stuck. As mature adults, we found being partnered with the person you go to for all the good and bad in your life is the person to be partnered with.

We are NOT perfect and we do make mistakes, but the mistakes are easier to navigate with your best friend by your side. Marriage is not easy, but it is easier when you are with the one who supports everything you do and have done for years. He is my shoulder to cry on, my strength in the storm, and my cheerleader through all things.

What kinds of things make your marriage successful?